Are you congruent with your weight loss goal? Or maybe your first question is… what “congruent” even means, and what does it have to do with your weight loss goal?
What It Means to be Congruent
When you are congruent you are in total and complete alignment with your goal. All parts of you are onboard with where you are headed and there is no self-sabotage at all going on. Congruency starts in the mind, which is why it is vital to bring mind, body, and spirit together in order to have total success at transforming your body (which transforms your life).
The mind rules the body and if you take backwards action by continuing to force yourself to take the physical actions of dieting and exercising without getting your inner you onboard first by getting congruent with your weight loss goal, you will never have lasting success.
Even that extremely small percentage of dieters who have succeeded in maintaining their weight made a change in their thoughts. While they struggled and forced themselves to diet and exercise in order to lose weight, along the way anyone who has ever succeeded at reaching their goal weight and in maintaining their weight for life changed their thoughts.
If you do not do this there is practically no point in even attempting another diet again because you are guaranteed to end up back in the pile of the 95% group of repeat dieters who fail over and over again. It will never work to force yourself to take physical action while ignoring the root cause of your overweight and that lies in your inner self.
When you clean that up first so that you become congruent with your weight loss goal then you are on the path to fun, effortless, weight loss success. There is nothing else to “fight”.
5 Signs You Are Congruent With Your Weight Loss Goal
Here are 5 signs that you are congruent with your weight loss goal. These signs tell you that you are on the easy, fun path to weight loss success and in fact, it goes far far beyond that – when you get congruent on the inside with the lifestyle you wish to lead on the outside (yes, it takes a lifestyle change to create that fit, healthy, sexy body you say you want to live in) then your days begin to flow.
Your daily living experience becomes fun, joyful, and abundant with all of the good stuff that life has to offer you and you are filled with inspiration to take healthy action. You are really rockin’ and rollin’ when you are lined up on the inside with what you want on the outside.
Now onto the 5 signs you are congruent with your weight loss goal:
- It is easy for you to Take Action. You can own all of the countless healthy weight loss plans in the world but if you never take action on a single one of them, what results will you get? When you are congruent with your weight loss goal it is super easy for you to not only take initial, decisive action, but also it is super easy for you to continue to act. You follow through long term rather than for just one day or one morning (that behavior is a sure sign of non-congruency) and healthy action ends up becoming second nature for you. There is no more struggle.
- Self-Sabotage is a thing of the past. When you are congruent with your weight loss goal and have your inner you onboard with what you want to create on the outside, a fit, healthy, sexy body, then self-sabotage is a thing of the past. All parts of you are lined up and energetically onboard with the body you wish to transform into and you don’t even consider sabotaging your efforts to get there. This all begins with your inner self, getting that part of you inline and congruent with the body you wish to live in.
- Self-Doubts are erased. When you are congruent with your weight loss goal you feel confident and secure that you will reach it. Self doubts are gone because there is nothing to fear. Who was the one sabotaging you before? Was there someone forcing you to stay fat? Nope, that was the part of your inner self who was bringing you down. Now that you are congruent with your goal you are fully confident you will get there. You no longer doubt how you will handle visiting relatives, what will happen when you’re away from home, stressful situation that used to lead to overeating, or whether or not you will succeed. Congruency leads to solution-oriented thinking, rather than failure-focused thinking.
- The Inner Battle is gone – No More Forcing Yourself! When you are congruent with your weight loss goal you are no longer fighting anything at all. Where before you were constantly fighting with yourself to stick to anything that you thought would help you lose weight, now you take action so easily and effortlessly because there is nothing to fight. All parts of you are lined up with what you are going for and no one is in your inner court trying to hold you back. In fact you may suddenly become aware of the absense of your past inner battle. There is nothing else to “fight” because you are totally lined up and onboard, all parts of you!
- It’s FUN to lose weight. It’s actually fun for you to lose weight, to take decisive, healthy action, to eat well, exercise, go shopping for cute, new clothes, socialize with friends and family without doubting yourself, all of the things that before were so hard for you to do when you were stuck and locked in inaction. You are confident and secure in the fact that not only are you getting to your goal but that you will stay there. The “battle” is done, it’s fun for you now to finally transform your body into the fit, healthy, sexy body you’ve always dreamed of living in, and you are enjoying the whole process. All because you made the choice to get congruent on the inside with the body you wish to create on the outside. You chose to get congruent and get your inner you onboard before you took the physical actions to lose weight.
Life is great for you when you are congruent on the inside with what you wish to create on the outside. These are 5 fabulous signs for you to recognize in yourself and they show you that you are totally and completely on board with your weight loss goal. And this is how life is supposed to be for you – fun, easy, abundant in all areas – Simple!
On the other hand if you are still struggling to lose weight, forcing yourself to “be different”, always hitting up against self-sabotage and never sticking to anything long term, then these are clear and loud warning bells that you are not congruent with the fit, healthy, sexy body you desire to live in. Those are signs that whatever you’ve been doing (or choosing not to do, such as getting congruent on the inside before taking physical action) hasn’t been working for you because if you have to struggle and battle to lose weight, hey, that’s not fun, and that’s not how life is supposed to be.
When you are lined up on the inside with what you say you want on the outside, everything flows and it’s easy for you to take action.
Where Are You At?
Where are you at right now? Is your weight loss journey fun and easy for you? Are you loving life, feeling happy, confident, and successful NOW while you are losing weight and getting fit? Or are you on the other side of the spectrum – not getting the results you want, feeling miserable about your weight and your lack of action, and still forcing yourself to be different?
Leave a comment below and share where you notice you’re at right now. And if you’re in a space where you’re not getting the results you want include where you would like to be instead. All change is preceeded by awareness so it’s a step in the right direction to become fully aware of where you are today.
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This is an excellent article. After over a year of SLOW and steady weightloss I am almost there, I realised the other day that after I had a bit of a treat at morniong tea, I didn’t even consider blowing it for the rest of the day, which I would have done back in the bad old days! Making healthy choices 80% of thetime is becoming automatic for me now.
Katie from “Thin enough to go to the gym” wrote a similar article recently but she used the terms unconcious incompetence, concious incompetence, concious competence, and unconcious competence. I think right now I am at concious competence and I am aiming very hard for unconcious competence.
I think what you are talking about when you say congruence is unconcious competence, but where people often get lost is that they think once they get to concious competence they can stop there, and as a result they struggle and go backwards because they fail to continue working on their mental ability to reach unconcious competence. I can see glimpses of it and how much fun it will be when I get there, and that is great motivation to keep working towards it!
No I am not congruent in my weightloss! I am still struggling!!
I realized that I’m not congruent at all– I recently lost 55 pounds and was doing well until health issues arose and landed me in the emergency room in early September. Since then I have struggled greatly to get completely back on track. I’m not making all the horrible choices I used to make regarding food, but I have found myself allowing items to creep back in that a few months ago would not pass through my lips. My goal still has me wanting to lose another 80-100 pounds and the momentum seems to have fallen short lately. Because of the health issues at this time and the frustrations of meeting with many different doctors but not finding the root of the issues, I have become very frustrated and found that the emotional eating has cropped back up and the pattern of eating to stuff the overwhelming emotions that I’m feeling at this time are beginning to take hold. I’m 53 years old, single, without any living family and no friends that really understand where I am in this weight loss journey, they may have 5-10 pounds they struggle with but not the 100+ plus pounds and the health issues that go along with trying to carry this weight around. Their encouragement is just make up your mind to do it and it will happen. I really would like to talk with someone who has overcome a hugh weight loss and who understands and has lived this journey of the battle from the inside out. Thank you.
Thanks for this enlightening and thought provoking article. As I read back through the list of 5 ways, I’m relating to each one and realizing that, HEY, I’m doing that!
JoLynn, you have been such an inspiration in my life in many ways, not just in my Lose Weight From the Inside Out work. Terms like Tomorrowland, Stuckville and my favorite Imperfect Action have resonated strongly within me. Each day I am taking imperfect action which allows me to move toward my goals by letting me “off the hook” when I wander off track. Before I would say “the heck with it” and continue to eat foods that were upstream to my goals. Being derailed by one meal or a cookie seems silly to me now. Imperfect Action is where it’s at!
Maddie, I must tell you, that you just totally ROCK. I’m serious! 🙂
You are a Star Client and I continue to be inspired by the transformation you are manifesting in your life by taking action with the tools I’m giving you in Lose Weight From the Inside Out. And you know, YOU are the one who is manifesting those transformations in your life by choosing to take deliberate action (and Imperfect Action! 😉 ) and allowing yourself to create a fit, healthy, sexy body for yourself.
And btw, Congratulations on your 2 lb weight loss last week!! That’s awesome however you know what I hear in your comment that’s even MORE awesome? That’s the fact that you are actively Taking Action with Imperfect Action and letting go of the perfectionism stuff. I used to do the same thing by saying “to heck with it” but that’s what puts you into that “Feel-Bad Cycle” that leads to all of that bad-feeling action, all that stuff. Not Fun!
Nor is it fun to live in Tomorrowland or Stuckville, but you aren’t even there now. You’ve moved on outta there and are living in NOWville today.
Keep on Rockin’ Maddie, you’re doing just awesome and I’m so happy to be on this journey with you. I can only imagine what’s to come for you, in addition to your weight loss. 🙂
Hi Ness,
That’s wonderful that you are noticing how you are making healthy choices for yourself 80% of the time and that it’s automatic for you! That Rocks. 🙂
Thanks for the comment on the term “unconcious incompetence” also. I haven’t heard that before, it’s interesting.
As far as becoming congruent however, that does take conscious, deliberate action to get there. After you have taken the deliberate action steps to become congruent on the inside with the fit, healthy, sexy body on the outside then the actions you take to create that body are effortless, so at that moment I suppose it could be looked at as “unconscious”. To get to that place though, it takes conscious action.
Rock ON!! 🙂
Message to Sharon: If you are truly looking for a coach and ready to invest in your future regarding your weight goals then I’d suggest JoLynn’s program called “Lo/se Weight From the Inside Out”. JoLynn has provided me with lots of tools and the inspiration to move forward. Working with her has created a sense of well-being for me that I’ve never experienced before. Her intuition is Spot-On, all the time! Using the Law of Attraction as the basis for this program has aligned me with not only the body I’m creating, but with other areas of my life (spouse and career) which were never in my intentions at the onset of this journey.
Invest in yourself, trust that what you’re seeking is available, and contact JoLynn! It’s been above and beyond my expectations, for sure!
Hi Sherry,
Yes, I know exactly what you mean about struggling. I’ve been there myself before and it’s just not fun.
It is a sign of being non-congruent and that’s good to be aware of that. And you know what’s neat – life really is meant to be fun, easy, and effortless, and that includes getting the body of your dreams. It’s good to know that there is another side and that you don’t have to struggle. 😉
Hi Sharon,
Wow, I can’t really top what Maddie shared with you there in her msg to you. I am just so honored and pleased beyond mention to see how Maddie has been taking action and getting results.
I can relate to what you wrote about losing momentum – I’ve been there before myself, and I know that’s not fun. I’ve also experienced the frustrations, emotional eating (turning to food to try to make yourself feel better), all of that.
I would like to offer you the opportunity to apply for a complimentary weight loss breakthrough session with me http://loseweightfromtheinsideout.com/bonus.htm on which I’d be happy to speak with you about your personal situation however I do want to address what you wrote about “wanting to speak to someone who has had a huge weight loss”. Even though I can completely relate to the feelings and frustration you are in, if you want to speak to someone who has been at least 100 lbs overweight then that wouldn’t be me.
I hope that helps! 🙂
This post resonates so well with me. I do finally find myself on MY side. I love the daily affirmations. They are so helpful in persuading my mean self to be nice to me.:) It’s so refreshing to admit that I am a dual personality (if not more) I feel like the 5 signs that I am congruent with myself are there and it’s FUN to be on your own side! GO ME! I also find myself in situations saying “Okay, the Me that I Want to Be would do…such and such” This helps me immensely. Thanks so much for what you do. You are an inspiration!
I had 15 days of pretty successful weight loss and felt pretty congruent overall until I stepped on the scale and found that I while I had lost a few pounds at the beginning the last few days I’d actually gained a couple of pounds. That kind of threw me and sabatoged my motivation.