Do you feel good when you are constantly being told that you are wrong? Are you motivated and inspired to create great things when you feel bad about yourself? If you are like most people, I’d say that your answer to both questions is a solid “NO”.
When you tell yourself that you should do this or you should do that, you are in essence telling yourself that you are wrong; you are wrong for not doing what you say you should be doing!
When it comes to weight loss and fitness, how often do you tell yourself that you should do this or that? When you do, I bet you aren’t motivated to go out and conquer your goals because again, you are telling yourself that you are wrong for not doing it.
Once you have a weight loss mindset you will never again have a need to “should all over yourself”.
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I really enjoyed reading this post. I tried the exercise out loud and it really does “feel” differently saying “could” instead of “should”. This is something I can apply not only to losing weight but to strengthening my self confidence in other areas of my life as well. Thanks!
I very much agree with this. For instance with diet, don’t focus on I can’t have twinkies, I can’t have donuts, I can’t have whatever. Start including the good foods in your diet and soon you won’t have room for all that junk. Which you probably won’t like anyway. Focus on addition rather than subtraction.
Hi, thanks for both of your comments! 🙂
@weight loss diva, thanks for sharing your experience. You’re right that you can apply this to other areas of your life…..remove all “shoulds” and replace them with “could”, it will really make a difference for you.
@Zach, that is a really good point, to focus on what you “can” have instead of focusing on what you should or should not be having (or doing).
Love your principle. Willpower is also an important factor not only in weight loss but in everything that we do. Writing the should and could is a neat way to get the morale boost that we need in achieving our goals :).
Hi Cherry, thank you! 🙂
Right, when you replace should with could, it’s like you now have the power back in your hands, at least that’s how it feels to me. Even if you’re the only one who has been telling yourself that you should do something, it can feel like someone else is telling you to do it because of the should. But, when you change that to could, now the choice is your’s. 😉