The more that you can love and appreciate your body as it is now, the more success you will have with not only losing weight, but keeping it off in the long run.
If you are hating your fat and hating your body then you have an F.A.T. Mindset, which is a mindset rooted in Fear Attracting Thoughts. The truth is that your body is only doing what you are leading it to do when you put food in your mouth and you are not physically hungry.
Yes, your body is just doing what it is supposed to do when you feed it more than it needs to function at your current level of energy output. By recognizing that and by increasing your awareness of the psychological and emotional reasons that you hang on to your fat (by sabotaging your weight loss efforts), you will help yourself release the negative thoughts directed towards it.
To move out of this self-sabotaging behavior you must get a weight loss mindset. Mindset is 90% of the game of achieving lasting success with your weight.
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Great post JoLynn – I’m always thanking my fat. It’s a great excuse for me to put off losing weight. I’m always like – well if we got snowed in, and we couldn’t get any shopping for a couple of weeks the fat will save me.
Hi Catherine,
LOL, that’s pretty funny. 🙂
I’m not trying to give you an excuse to not lose weight though, but I think you know that. 😉
When I first started reading this, I thought it was a satire, then I realized you’re serious. You actually believe that people can love themselves thin and that they are using their fat as an excuse to keep from living their lives.
I’m sorry, but I’ve been fat for 36 of my 54 years, and most of it was caused by weight loss diets and a failed weight loss surgery. I’m healthy in spite of it, I’ve held several jobs that required intelligence and further education, I raised a son on my own, I’ve supported myself from the time I was 18 until now (I’m married now and my husband supports me). I shop, clean house, cook meals, do laundry, play with my grandkids, read, sew, do crafts, mess with my computer, go out and do things with my husband, and generally live my life. I’m not the only fat person who does these things, most of us do. We don’t sit around feeling sorry for ourselves and using our fat as an excuse, we don’t have the time. We have lives to live, people to love, and things to do. We aren’t putting our lives on hold until we get thin, most of us have learned the hard way that diets don’t work for permanent weight loss, never have, never will, for the majority of fat people. And I love myself now, fat and all, I don’t have to wait until I’m thin to love me.
Hi Vesta, thanks for your comments!
I understand that without reading the introductory post that you might take today’s exercise out of context, however nowhere in my post did I say that anyone is using his or her overweight as an excuse. The point is to release the criticism and negative thinking about yourself that is wrapped up in your weight.
I encourage you to read the introduction to these exercises as it explains the foundation: these exercises are based on the work of Louise L. Hay who teaches that any problem in life can be solved by loving the self more.
I agree with this thought. After all love is the most powerful energy on Earth and all I am doing is applying this energy to the issue of unhealthy overweight. The more that you genuinely love yourself, the more you will be naturally motivated to care for your body and your health. I don’t believe that if a person truly loves himself or herself that they will maintain their body in poor health. Do you want the people you love and care about to be in poor health? Of course you don’t. 😉
One last thing to think about: if you are holding only positive thoughts about yourself and have no negative thinking whatsoever about your overweight and/or health, then my post would not activate you. You would not have a strong reaction to it, so perhaps there is something more for your to look at….look at with love, and not self-criticism. 😉
Fundamentally, it is strange why people have to self-criticize themselves for being overweight.
In 1989, I visited a village in the mountain in the rural area of the Philippines. The ladies in the village was all quite fat, and a young lady I home stayed with was ashamed of herself for being thin. She said in their culture, it is considered good looking to be fat, and the fatter, the better. But then, in reality, her family still loved her, her boyfriend still loved her, so it should not have mattered in reality.
In both ways, I agree what is important is to put a priority on ourselves, our own happiness and health.
Hi Asako,
Right, self-criticism in general just doesn’t get you anywhere, at least not anywhere positive. 😉
I agree that is it very important to make yourself a priority because no one else can do it for you. Your health (and happiness!) is in your own hands. 🙂